Hello
I had been facing a similar trouble. The thing is if I used to seperate the DTMF digits with commas (for 1 sec gap) sometimes the IVR would go thru but it was still unreliable)
However, it was resolved by this ways. I used x-lite soft phone and made the transfer-conference by dialling out from line 2 on the x-lite , it used another sip termination service provider on ulaw with rfc2833 for transmitting, then the telephone number could be entered every time from the softphone successfully.
As we had to close the transmission of DTMF with a hash (#), we had to avoid the tTo flags in extensions. Later on I had used SVN asterisk , where the transfer was made into ## instead of single # in features.conf and we could continue to define flags in the extensions.conf.
The thread I had posted was
http://www.eflo.net/VICIDIALforum/viewt ... ight=#8850
As you would see, Matt Florell advised to try and used app_conference rather than meetme, but I chosen to try tackle the root of the trouble (SIP+g729+dtmf) which sorted it out.
Hope this helps,
devafree